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PostPosted: Fri Jul 17, 2009 10:14 pm    Post subject: How time changes things! Reply with quote

Tonight I was sitting thinking about how things have changed over the years.
I know this is only July but I was thinking about how we used to celebrate the end of the year 31stDec/1stJan.
Any stranger could come knocking on your door and after midnight on the 31st Dec everyone was welcomed in whether you knew them or not.
There was no fear of being robbed or attacked everyone was VERY happy and very sociable, ''drinks'' were always on the table as well as a variety of goodies (the main ones being shortbread and black-bun) and the strangers didnt come empty handed either, they had their drink with them too to share with everyone. (This was in the 1950's and before.)
Not so now, but sometimes old habits are difficult to forget. eg
A few years ago a 'travelling' woman came to my door selling clothes pegs, (I could have sold her some the amount I had collected over the years!!)so I just said sorry but I dont need any, at this point she asked me if I could give her a drink and that is one thing I would never refuse to anyone.
I was about to go back into the house to get her a drink when I remembered what my son had told me (never ever go back into the house to get something someone has asked for and leave the door open. It had been lectured to me time and time again to say I'll be back in a minute and then close the door) This I find very very difficult to do because I feel its so rude to do that, but my dogs were barking so I said to her sorry but I'll need to close the door just in case they get out I'll just go and get you your drink at this point she shouted just get me a coke(cola) I said I was sorry I didnt have Cola in the house but I did have some lemonade so I quickly closed the door and brought her the bottle of lemonade It was then I got the shock of my life- She grabbed the bottle then started to curse me and I mean CURSE!!
I quickly closed and locked the door and if I'm being truly honest I was really and truly frightened and this has now made me very wary about everyone.
BUT like our youth etc of today the majority of them and the majority of travelling people are not like that but its the few who are really bad that give the others a bad name and sadly that makes us trust nobody we dont know personally.
Cant repeat what my son said to me when I told him what had happened.


Anxious Silenced but sadly I had learned my lesson the hard way. So sometimes I think although we didnt have all the modern conveniences we have now. (My mother didnt have a washing machine or a dishwasher then and the iron used for ironing clothes was heated against the coal fire and we didnt have electric light either it was gas light - that's another story though) but sometimes I wish rather than have all the mod cons, I could just get back that feeling that you could put your trust in everyone. A very sad thing to lose.

I often wonder if our ancestors felt the same about the changes in their time.

Here's me giving my age away again Silenced Silenced Silenced

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PostPosted: Wed Sep 02, 2009 11:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Emmy, I'm just reading this now. You were lucky nothing worse happened. Thankfully you did close the door behind you. Here I was thinking this story was going to have a sweet ending but instead the woman cursed you. She could not have been in her right mind.

What I wish for children of today was the peace I had as a child. In the summer we'd stay outside until the street lights came on. We were not afraid of anything. We played outside long and hard all day. My friend and I would walk to our public pool. On the way back, usually at 3:00 p.m., we'd collect empty soda bottles that people had discarded by the side of the road. We'd bring them into the beverage store and get two pennies for one then we'd buy a large prtexel stick, break it in half and share it. If we got really lucky we'd find a larger glass bottle that fetched us five pennies. We were rich!! We'd go to the Lawsons store (no longer around here anymore) and buy a popsicle that we'd split in half and share. Sometimes we'd stop in the bakery and ask for free samples. Mary and I always talk about these joyful days when we were kids.

Mary and I shared much in those days. We lived across the street from each other. When I wanted to go play with her I'd go to her front door on that small cement porch and sing into the open screen door, "oh Mary." Usually I had to wait for her to finish her chores. I was not allowed to help. Then we'd play with our Barbie dolls or gather wild strawberries or blackberries from the nearby woods with her parents. Sometimes we'd play softball at the backstop in the field behind her house with her brothers and mine. Just about everything we did was fun and free. We'd help the nuns clean the classrooms just before the start of the school year. Our treat was a pint of thick, rich chocolate milk that the nuns gave us.

Mary lives in San Antonio, Texas now. I haven't seen her since Vicky was about two so that makes it almost 20 years since I've seen her. She's a third grade teacher. Her dad died in November and her mother is in a home with Alzheimers disease. I remember them fondly with love.

Those were the days Emmy, and sadly they are never coming back.

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PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 2:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't really have too many fond memories of my childhood unfortunately other than spending lots of time with family. Every occasion was spent with relatives and the food and drinks endless. I remember Saturday mornings Dad would work, and mom would grocery shop. My sister and I would spend the morning cleaning and by the time Mom got home we would get into the fresh cold cuts and bread. We lived on the fourth floor of my dad's apartment building and the only babysitter we really had was my dog. One day a man showed up at our door (we were home alone and we were about nine). He said he just wanted to tell us that we left the key in the door which we found odd since we lived on the top floor - how did he get up there and how did he notice that. We didn't panic..the dog stood in front of us and showed her teeth. She was not happy and sensed trouble. The stranger took off and my sister quickly locked the door and called my dad.

It was hard being latch key kids - especially growing up in Yonkers where it wasn't that safe anyway (mom worked nights, dad worked days and ran the fruit store evenings so we were on our own for six years) but we relied on each other and the dog. Other than that, I could care less about my childhood.

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PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 2:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nucccia I expect it was a different situation for your mum and dad, I think I remember you saying they came across from Italy? So it would be more difficult for them. Probably also the area where you live too would have made a difference.
My mum lived in the area where I was born all of her life and it was really a very safe place at that time. Children could go out to play and if they were a bit late in getting back it would almost always be because some other mum was probably giving them something to eat but there were no telephones in the houses at that time- only a few red telephone boxes in some areas at the end of a street, which at that time were never vandilised, But were used mostly just for emergency calls for the Doctor etc. so the only way they could let other mothers know where their chld was was by passing a message by neighbours.
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PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 4:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nuccia I did not remember you speaking of living in New York. Were you born there and how did you come to live in Canada?

We spent all of our holidays too with my mother's side of the family. She had three sisters and each one took turns have a different holiday at their home. We had lots of delicious, home made Italian food.

Sundays my mother would start a huge pot of "soogoo" on the stove and make her homemade meatballs. The delicious smell would fill our small bungalow. We'd eat early, usually 2:00 p.m.

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PostPosted: Thu Sep 03, 2009 7:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was born in Toronto (not far from where I live now). When I was about six, my parents decided to make the move to the US. My mom's parents, sister, brother and their families lived there so we packed up one day and moved to be closer to them.

I hated Yonkers. My parents worked hard and they made a nice home for us but it was a rough area and we were used to being here where we could run around free. We had to be inside but 4:30 most afternoons and we really only knew each other. My mom also hated it as much as we did and I don't think my dad liked it ver much but we stayed because of my grandparents.

In 1974 I lost my grandmother to leukemia and three months later my grandfather died of a brain tumor. Three months later Dad sold the apartment building, shut down the business packed the car and we drove back to Toronto. We were finally home and to tell you the truth, I would never leave here again other than to visit.

As for the sugo..mom still follows this same tradition and I used to as well - still do some Sundays but now that Lou is on a strict diet, I don't always do it as much as before.

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