Tonight I was sitting thinking about how things have changed over the years.
I know this is only July but I was thinking about how we used to celebrate the end of the year 31stDec/1stJan.
Any stranger could come knocking on your door and after midnight on the 31st Dec everyone was welcomed in whether you knew them or not.
There was no fear of being robbed or attacked everyone was VERY happy and very sociable, ''drinks'' were always on the table as well as a variety of goodies (the main ones being shortbread and black-bun) and the strangers didnt come empty handed either, they had their drink with them too to share with everyone. (This was in the 1950's and before.)
Not so now, but sometimes old habits are difficult to forget. eg
A few years ago a 'travelling' woman came to my door selling clothes pegs, (I could have sold her some the amount I had collected over the years!!)so I just said sorry but I dont need any, at this point she asked me if I could give her a drink and that is one thing I would never refuse to anyone.
I was about to go back into the house to get her a drink when I remembered what my son had told me (never ever go back into the house to get something someone has asked for and leave the door open. It had been lectured to me time and time again to say I'll be back in a minute and then close the door) This I find very very difficult to do because I feel its so rude to do that, but my dogs were barking so I said to her sorry but I'll need to close the door just in case they get out I'll just go and get you your drink at this point she shouted just get me a coke(cola) I said I was sorry I didnt have Cola in the house but I did have some lemonade so I quickly closed the door and brought her the bottle of lemonade It was then I got the shock of my life- She grabbed the bottle then started to curse me and I mean CURSE!!
I quickly closed and locked the door and if I'm being truly honest I was really and truly frightened and this has now made me very wary about everyone.
BUT like our youth etc of today the majority of them and the majority of travelling people are not like that but its the few who are really bad that give the others a bad name and sadly that makes us trust nobody we dont know personally.
Cant repeat what my son said to me when I told him what had happened.
but sadly I had learned my lesson the hard way. So sometimes I think although we didnt have all the modern conveniences we have now. (My mother didnt have a washing machine or a dishwasher then and the iron used for ironing clothes was heated against the coal fire and we didnt have electric light either it was gas light - that's another story though) but sometimes I wish rather than have all the mod cons, I could just get back that feeling that you could put your trust in everyone. A very sad thing to lose.
I often wonder if our ancestors felt the same about the changes in their time.
Here's me giving my age away again